Not the “B” Word!

Boundaries—My Favorite Topic! Here's Why...

Boundaries often get a bad rap, but they're actually all about loving others well. I know, just hearing the word "boundaries" might make your chest tighten a little—but don’t worry, I’m here to clear the air.

Contrary to popular belief, boundaries aren't about keeping people out or pushing them away. Instead, they’re about creating healthy, respectful relationships where everyone knows what's expected and what’s okay. In fact, boundaries are one of the best ways to love and honor both yourself and others.

Let’s dive into how setting boundaries can actually strengthen your connections, not weaken them

First Things First: Boundaries Are Loving

Yes, you read that right—a boundary is an act of love! When you set a boundary, you’re showing love for yourself first, and then for the people around you. It’s not about cutting people off or trying to control them. In fact, boundaries are the opposite of control. You can't control anyone else—only yourself. Setting a boundary is about taking control over how you respond, especially for the women I work with who are recovering from toxic relationships.

Here’s the thing: Boundaries are not requests or comments. Whether the person you’re setting the boundary with listens or not isn't the point, because your boundary isn’t about them—it’s about you. It’s your empowerment, your decision to take control over your actions and your responses.

You don’t need their agreement. They don’t need to agree to the boundary for you to enforce it. For example, if you're honoring yourself and expect to be spoken to with respect, a clear boundary might sound like this: “If you continue to yell or call me names, I’m going to leave this conversation and revisit it later when we can talk calmly.”

Notice the difference? Saying something like “You can’t talk to me this way” or “Stop yelling” leaves you in a place of helplessness, waiting for someone else to change. But with a boundary like the example above, you’re stepping out of helplessness and into empowerment by taking control over your actions

So, Let’s Practice These New Skills, Ladies!

Boundaries aren’t about changing other people—they’re about you. It’s time to move from disempowerment to a place of strength and empowerment. Ready to get started?

I’m looking for six women who are ready to step into empowerment and start building a healthier relationship with themselves. From that foundation, clarity can emerge from the chaos, and loving boundaries can finally be set. Are you ready? Or maybe you know someone who’s ready to move from chaos to clarity?

My women’s groups are the perfect place to begin this journey. Let’s work together to find your power, plot your course, and create the life you deserve. Click on the next blog to learn about the transformative power of womens groups and then click the contact me button for more information.